Who talked about "denying how they live"? I'm just saying that in the strict sense of the term the author is not female. Per wikipedia:

"The sex of most mammals, including humans, is genetically determined by the XY sex-determination system where males have X and Y (as opposed to X and X) sex chromosomes."

I think the correct term for the author's sex is "Trans woman": http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trans_woman