I grew up to tech parents working tech jobs in the bay area starting from the late 70s. I used tech more in the past than I do today because none of it is for me, it's for companies to profit off me. It's not offering a solution, it's offering 'the first hit is free'.

No phone app has stayed useful long term as just a daily tool. Pricing changes. UI changes. I realized I am happy to incorporate tools into my routines, but not dynamically changing/attention requiring/maximal extraction from me apps.

Even the voice assistant has gotten worse over time to the point I gave up on it. I used to be able to trust it to set reminders, to turn off the lights after I got in bed. Neither of those I want to troubleshoot when they failed. Burnt food/getting out of bed. I'm just gonna stop using them.

For a hobby I fixed up a cheap old Jeep Cherokee. It fills that 'figuring something out' need tech hobbies used to. I do use my computer for music production but there's a lot of free as in free not 'the first hit is free to trap you in our bs' software for that.

Tech for its own sake is dull and pointless. Always has been. So are trends. In anything. Buy things that solve real problems you have; save money on the rest.

On the SWE side, if you don’t want to get out of software entirely find something to work on that isn’t just about tech. Find an aspect of the world that’s meaningful to you — maybe that’s biotech, maybe it’s plumbing — and build software that supports it.

Technology is very cool and certainly has value in improving our lives. That being said, I have realized that I'm generally happier the less time I spend looking at screens. I opt for paper maps when I can. I read physical books. I'm just bored with nothing to do when I stand in lines. I don't really want to tech-ify stuff that much anymore.

A random example. They now make bird feeders with cameras and AI detection to tell you what type of bird you're seeing. But it's so much more satisfying to sit outside watching the bird feeder and then flip through a book to identify the bird. It's slower and old fashioned but it's a calm, satisfying thing to do.

I’m still very into tech, just not into tech products from the big companies. I use OpenBSD as a daily driver and I like reading its code when I want to understand how something work. This has led a renewal to my interest in Electronics, digital electronics and embedded. I also took some time to read “Operating Systems: Three easy pieces”, it’s quite nice to know that unless for performance reason, I could use decades old computers and be OK.

> My last home was filled with smart home tech and other stuff, now I live in a completely analog old home which is nice (and much smaller!).

"Tech" does not last. I like things that are durable and last. Solid hardwood furniture, a light switch that only closes a circuit and doesn't contain microchips, something built out of metal instead of plastic, etc.

I'll still buy new laptops and smartphones, but not "smart" things.

The problem is that you are being a consumer, not a builder. You are over-spending on products that are designed to depreciate faster than they are worth. Other than RAM and GPUs these "tech" devices are worth less than they were a year ago.

Just build and sell things yourself.

Opting out of consumption = good

Opting into creation = good

>How is creating low value, quickly depreciating products good?

You might have better luck having a conversation without using a leading question.

So my experience as a German high school student is kinda weird. I have been programming for 7 years now. It always was a sort of escape to me since it always felt like a sort of escape for me. Since everybody started using AI for everything, it just feels unreal and kinda changed. Not even in a bad way, but it went from a massive community of nerds and enthusiasts (which I loved being a part of) to a mixed community of people relying fully on AI slop to prove themselves to nobody with useless projects. That is my opinion please dont take it personal.

you seem like you are isolating yourself.

But as long as you replace all this with meaningful connections with people, groups, communities I think you will be much better for it.

There are still fun things to do with tech, and stuff that won't enshittify — you just need to know where to look.

> I just don't care anymore, and I don't think it is because I got older... I got into tech in my mid/late 20s so I wasn't a born nerd like most of you guys tinkering with stuff since childhood.

I was tinkering since childhood and I was still tired of it pretty quickly. I always knew I do not want to work in software, but where the hell else was I supposed to go?

There was a thread the other day on RF engineering. There were a number comments describing it a “magic” or “sorcery”.

This is kinda how I felt about computers as a kid. I used to wonder about different types of software on my PC. “How does it possibly work”, “How could I make one”. It was this sort of curiosity. Over time, learning how the sausage was made, I just lost interest.

Nowadays I still find myself curious and inquisitive about how things work, just rarely software. Unfortunately most of the “magic” left in the world is a bit beyond my IQ level, such as the aforementioned RF stuff lol.

I've done graduate level RF stuff for the same reason, but I'm here to tell you just like everything else once you learn it and its demystified, it won't feel like "magic" anymore. That doesn't mean it wasn't worth learning, it was just as interesting as learning all about computers. It's just that the magic will always be in the unknown, and once you know it you'll just want to know something else.

The good thing is it's unlimited and all reachable if you spend enough time. Currently my interest is in chemistry, for example, that stuff is a complete mystery to me

I think I understand what the OP is feeling. It’s not that RF is actually a difficult subject, but that it is hard to find the motivation to learn it something new.

At least, that’s the feeling I’ve gotten about a lot of things I wanted to do, it when I got around to it, couldn’t really be bothered to.