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> Because this worldview makes no sense once you know that these "violent and degrading acts" are extremely common fetishes among women who play the part of the "victim."

I’d like to see some evidence for that because it sounds like a projection to me.



Here is some data: https://aella.substack.com/p/fetish-tabooness-and-popularity...

I haven't looked at it closely, so I have no idea whether it supports or opposes the hypothesis. Just wanted to give you some data.


"being submissive, sexual frustration, light bondage, spanking, choking"

All clustered at the top in the feminine-preferred category.


The author of that post is surveying their own audience. You can take the results with a pinch of salt.


> You can take the results with a pinch of salt.

That's a sub-genre I have yet to hear about, do tell more.

Seriously, though, the 'porn addict turned sexual predator' questionnaire in TFA was from anonymous people on the dark webs. Are they also salt-fetishists?


Find your local BDSM community, and you'll have it. Maybe. If you're a good boy.


That doesn’t make it “extremely common”.


“Extremely” is subjective. But research[1] says almost 50% of the population has engaged in BDSM, another 13% fantasizes about it, and 12% engages in it regularly.

I’d call that extremely common, far more common than skateboarding or sports cars, but YMMV may vary in definition of “extremely”.

1. https://academic.oup.com/jsm/article-abstract/14/9/1152/6973...


A third of British women have suffered unwanted choking in the bedroom:

https://metro.co.uk/2019/11/29/third-british-women-suffered-...


Sure? And a shockingly high percentage of women have been raped. How does that impact how common it is for adults to consensually play rough?


I can't even count how many movies I've seen where this is a comedic plot point -- the conservative soccer mom likes to get a little freaky and someone walks in.




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