This is true about EVs, but it all just depends on how hard you are on your brakes. I routinely go 70k+ miles in ICE cars with the same brake pads. My mom on the other hand had to change hers about every 30k miles. YMMV.

I haven't really had to engage the friction brakes on my EV in the past 30,000mi, other than intentionally having a few hard stops to scrape rust off the rotors from not using them for so long.

a lot of that can depend on your commute. If you commute over hills, you can expect shorter time between replacing brake pads.

Having said this, if you can go 70k+ miles with the same brake pads, you could likely go much further than that if the car had regenerative braking.

My standard non EV gas car is 45k same pads?

I should add a little bit of honesty here. I did replace my brakes but only because they were rusting from not being used enough! So I bought stainless steel pads and those look great.

Except mine are basically new.