Worrying about reputation rather than character then? Do you give other people such considerations when they're speaking but not yourself, or do you judge other people (like you judge yourself) if you don't get everything 100% clear to someone even when there's inadequate time to do so?
Perhaps needing to learn to forgive yourself for "looking stupid," when there's a reasonable reason that you realize if having enough time you could correct or clarify it; part of the extreme difficulty and hard work to grow when being a conscious individual who feels things strongly-cares a lot.
- Nobody knows who I am
- If I'm attacked, I can usually write it off as random Internet people being jerks or having bad days.
- I don't accidentally say stupid stuff because the clock is running out for a timely response.
- If I say something rash or nasty, I can often delete it before many people read it.