The first one was a bit jarring but also awesome. No one told me the kid comes out looking grey like the borg before quickly turning red and no one also told me babies are basically lizard people for the first three months but after that they come alive with human emotion. Don't be discouraged by the eating, crapping, crying thing that doesn't recognize your face, seem to get much out of cuddling, or show affection, it gets so much better, as does the sleep schedule and it takes about 2-4 months for that to happen (sleep schedule will improve incrementally as the kid gets bigger and can eat more at once).

My wife can go to sleep early but I am a bit of a night owl, so what worked for us really well for our second kid in the first 3 months was she would feed him and put him down in the slumberpod and I would watch the kid and work. When the kid woke up after 2-3 hours I would take him upstairs to feed and go to bed and the wife would take over. She got a solid 2-3 hours to begin the night so was much better rested vs the first kid and I was only getting mildly disturbed when she fed the kid in bed vs being woke up like I was for the first kid so the six solid hours I need weren't as disturbed as with our first kid. by month 4 the kid would only need 1 or sometimes 2 feedings so we switched to her taking him up feeding him and they both sleep and I would just sneak in around 10:30. kid would often sleep till 2-3 am before waking.