I've come to believe that humans are only really responsible for their behaviour when present, and then their behaviour is compassionate and kind. Most people, most of the time, are more-or-less running on automatic, like meat-robots.
In other words, if they are asleep they're blameless and if they are awake they're harmless.
I'm not claiming it's true, I'm just saying that it's helped me to be more forgiving and easy-going.
>I've come to believe that humans are only really responsible for their behavior when present.
True. Being present means you observe the heart feeling, the mind thinking and the body acting. It means you bring yourself into focus, becoming aware of your own existence, watching the motives and the results of your actions, and Studying the person you have built around yourself, inadvertence. I became less judgmental, and calmer since i began learning to 'query' and question my motives. These days I don't do it as often as I used to, but i am much less on auto-pilot.
In other words, if they are asleep they're blameless and if they are awake they're harmless.
I'm not claiming it's true, I'm just saying that it's helped me to be more forgiving and easy-going.