It actually makes very little sense for men to get married (in the USA, anyway) these days. It's simply far too easy for women to
1. become "unhappy",
2. get a no-fault divorce,
3. be awarded primary custody of the kids (this happens somewhere around 80% of the time),
4. take the house, and
5. be awarded large child-support and alimony payments.
In the USA, somewhere around half of marriages end in divorce. There is evidence [1] that, among college-educated couples, the percentage of divorces initiated by women is approximately 90%. Many men are blindsided by them.
Very few things in life can be worse for a man than having his kids taken away by a woman with the help of the family courts system. One day you're reading with them on the couch every night, the next you're seeing them only every other weekend. Devastating.
I know, I know. Your girl isn't like that. Well, women change when the kids are born and the real work begins.
While I don't feel like contesting the first few points, because I feel like they might be close to accurate, but your point after 5 is loaded and misleading. I feel you have cherry picked your numbers out of your own source. Here is a complimentary figure to your 90% of divorces instigated by women in scenarios where higher education is had by both couples.
"Success in marriage has been associated with higher education and higher age. 81% of college graduates, over 26 years of age, who wed in the 1980s, were still married 20 years later. 65% of college graduates under 26 who married in the 1980s, were still married 20 years later. 49% of high school graduates under 26 years old who married in the 1980s, were still married 20 years later.[27] Population studies have found that in 2004 and 2008, liberal-voting states have lower rates of divorce than conservative-voting states, possibly because people in liberal states tend to wait longer before getting married.[28] In 2009, 2.9% of adults 35-39 without a college degree were divorced, compared with 1.6% with a college education.[29]"
So maybe your 90% figure is true, but that is true in a largely reduced set of cases according to the same article.
1. become "unhappy",
2. get a no-fault divorce,
3. be awarded primary custody of the kids (this happens somewhere around 80% of the time),
4. take the house, and
5. be awarded large child-support and alimony payments.
In the USA, somewhere around half of marriages end in divorce. There is evidence [1] that, among college-educated couples, the percentage of divorces initiated by women is approximately 90%. Many men are blindsided by them.
[1] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce#Gender_and_divorce
Very few things in life can be worse for a man than having his kids taken away by a woman with the help of the family courts system. One day you're reading with them on the couch every night, the next you're seeing them only every other weekend. Devastating.
I know, I know. Your girl isn't like that. Well, women change when the kids are born and the real work begins.