>Explicitly threatening to quit during any negotiation is the unreasonable part. Frankly, it's an implied threat in any conversation about compensation, [...] coming out and saying it, is wildly unprofessional and immature; there's just no up-side.
If it's implied then making it explicit is simply clarifying one-anothers position. I can't see how that's unprofessional: Being honest, open and explicit about your intentions.
Leaving because negotiation didn't work for you when you made no explicit indication that your staying was part of the negotiation, that seems wrong to me.
> "If it's implied then making it explicit is simply clarifying one-anothers position"
The only reason to state it is to add emotion to the argument: to dramatically emphasize your resolve. And the problem with that, is the next negotiation has to go to at least that point again to convince the other party you really do mean it.
So if you were earnest about having been at the end of your rope in the first negotiation, you earn only the certainty of being pushed back to the end of your rope in every subsequent negotiation. It's self-defeating and adds wholly unnecessary stress to the workplace.
And if you're advocating emotional argument in every negotiation... well, good luck with that. It adds a tangible degree of stress to everyone around you and they won't appreciate it.
>he problem with that, is the next negotiation has to go to at least that point again to convince the other party you really do mean it.
But you were saying that the argument is already at that point but that card is just being held below the table despite everyone being aware that it is there.
It's not necessarily emotional - I can say "I'll leave if I don't get these terms", that's not inherently an emotional demand, nor is it overly dramatic if that's your intention.
It's pretty much all-in wrt the negotiation so yes I can see that it increases the stress until terms are agreed. But then the terms from the other side would have to include something to avoid such negotiations if they found it too stressful and/or emotional.
Nor does this necessarily lead to future difficulties in negotiation.
For sure someone could attempt to use this sort of situation for emotional leverage - I guess it depends whether you're talking about negotiation pay+conditions for a job or negotiating terms of a personal relationship.
If it's implied then making it explicit is simply clarifying one-anothers position. I can't see how that's unprofessional: Being honest, open and explicit about your intentions.
Leaving because negotiation didn't work for you when you made no explicit indication that your staying was part of the negotiation, that seems wrong to me.