We co-sleep with the babies/kids, so caveats apply.
If you do a deeper dive into the research literature, the finding ends up being that it's fine to co-sleep if you are completely sober. No nyquil, no pot, no booze, no caffeine, no nicotine, nothing. If you put those in you and then the baby in the bed, then you start getting injuries and deaths.
So, obviously, the recommendation then has to be that you do not co-sleep. Because people are real dumb, and even more so when you've only had 4 hours of sleep in the last month. I've had other parents tell me that pot isn't a drug (its a medicine!) and really mean it. That since a MD prescribed them ambien, they can take it while breastfeeding and co-sleeping. The kids of those people are the ones the 'no co-sleeping' recommendation is meant for.
If you're totally 100% sober, it's fine for mom and baby to co-sleep.
For me it just comes down to it not being remotely worth the risk. I'm a father and I did half the midnight feedings and diaper changes (plus all of them when mother was traveling for work), and cosleeping would have definitely been more convenient. And maybe what you're saying is true, but if wrong (or just something else goes wrong), it's an unthinkable tragedy that would cost me my child. And that's a tragedy that many parents (and marriages) don't come back from.
I'll just be a little more tired and inconvenienced for a year, it's OK.
If you do a deeper dive into the research literature, the finding ends up being that it's fine to co-sleep if you are completely sober. No nyquil, no pot, no booze, no caffeine, no nicotine, nothing. If you put those in you and then the baby in the bed, then you start getting injuries and deaths.
So, obviously, the recommendation then has to be that you do not co-sleep. Because people are real dumb, and even more so when you've only had 4 hours of sleep in the last month. I've had other parents tell me that pot isn't a drug (its a medicine!) and really mean it. That since a MD prescribed them ambien, they can take it while breastfeeding and co-sleeping. The kids of those people are the ones the 'no co-sleeping' recommendation is meant for.
If you're totally 100% sober, it's fine for mom and baby to co-sleep.